All for the Perfect Match #BookBytes 15

Hola folks and welcome to another edition of #BookBytes. I’ve been re-reading Gone With the Wind and what a nostalgic trip it is proving to be! I’ll probably need a whole series of posts to explain what I’m feeling as I go over the familiar words of Margaret Mitchell.

That’s where I picked my quote for this fortnight.

It gives an idea of what women endured during those times only to snare a man. They all did it, some gladly, others grudgingly.

In the passage here Scarlett is being forced to eat before she heads out for a barbecue so she wouldn’t have an appetite and could pick at her food delicately rather than exhibiting a healthy appetite, which was considered unladylike. It’s so bizarre, it’s comical.

“I wish to Heaven I was married,” she said resentfully as she attacked the yams with loathing. “I’m tired of everlastingly being unnatural and never doing anything I want to do. I’m tired of acting like I don’t eat more than a bird, and walking when I want to run and saying I feel faint after a waltz, when I could dance for two days and never get tired. I’m tired of saying, ‘How wonderful you are!’ to fool men who haven’t got one-half the sense I’ve got, and I’m tired of pretending I don’t know anything, so men can tell me things and feel important while they’re doing it… I can’t eat another bite.” 

Margaret Mitchell, Gone with the Wind

My heart goes out to this 16-year-old Scarlett , bursting with verve and vigour, who has to constantly restrain herself to appear delicate and docile in order to be desirable. It’s another matter altogether that a few pages later she’s glad she’s not married and can preen with her bunch of beaux rather than being relegated to the sidelines. But then teenagers are allowed to be fickle.

Mercifully we’ve come a long way since this, and women are getting comfortable in their own skin. They are looking for their real selves and taking pride in them for where’s the point of losing yourself in order to find a husband?

More importantly, it is men who need to learn to be comfortable around smart women, to understand, love and respect them. And they’re getting there, albeit slowly.

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The next edition is scheduled for September 17th.

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26 thoughts on “All for the Perfect Match #BookBytes 15

  1. shanayatales

    I haven’t read Gone With The Wind, but I have read many books set in the time period, and interestingly enough, none of them mentioned this, or even referred to this, even though it seems to have been the norm of the time.

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    1. Obsessivemom Post author

      That’s right. It’s crazy how finding a husband was the centre of one’s existence right since a girl was born upto the time she got married.

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  2. Sonia Chatterjee

    This is such a cool concept. Wish I had discovered it earlier. Would have made it a part of My Friend Alexa Campaign. Haven’t read Gone with the wind yet but I’ve seen the movie. Your post makes me want to re-watch it now.

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    1. Obsessivemom Post author

      Never mind Sonia. Join in after Alexa. Also, do try to get to the book. I love the way it’s written. Mitchell sketches such clear images with her words that it’s a pleasure to read, although it is a rather lengthy book, but worth every page of it.

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  3. Shalzmojo

    Truth be told I found this book tad boring as Scarlet really got on my nerves. Some parts of the book are good but overall its not something I would recco for a read. There are so many versions of this book and I love the Hugh Jackman and Nicole Kidman movie version of it. Have you seen it?

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    1. Obsessivemom Post author

      Nope I haven’t seen it. I didn’t even know there was another film apart from the one with Vivian Leigh. Is it also called Gone With the Wind? Can’t find it.
      The book is slow in bits but I liked the leisurely pace and that Mitchell takes her time to let the characters grow.

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  5. Ramya Abhinand

    A little late but here goes my link https://www.meotherwise.com/city-of-girls-elizabeth-gilbert-review/

    For a lot of reasons I loved Gone with wind. In fact despite her portrayal of being a spoilt arrogant girl who does often hurl out nasty words, I liked her. In fact it was Rhett Butler whom I quite despised. And going back to your lines, I agree it was such a weird world way back then. It was women who had to oblige. We have come a long way since.

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    1. Obsessivemom Post author

      We sure have. And thank Goodness for that. I had a love-hate relationship with Scarlett. I could never completely like her but I did love the book.

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  6. Soumya Prasad

    I love Gone With The Wind and I feel that Scarlet is a very misunderstood character. There apparently is a spin-off book on her character, have you read that?

    I’ll be a part of this for its next edition. Marking Sept 17th on my calendar right away!

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    1. Obsessivemom Post author

      Yay to that. It’s fun to read, analyse and share a good quote. As for Scarlett she was vain and self centered but she changed for the better as she grew through the book. She brings to life how grey a character can be. I ended up loving her for her undying spirit and her bravery.

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  7. Priya

    Hey OM! yes.. the things that girls/women had to do!! it all seemed far off and strange when i’d read this book , a very long time ago.I had loved reading the book .. it was at a time when the story mattered more to me than how the characters were portrayed 🙂 The thing that had struck me most was the fact that women had to hide their pregnancy and that it was considered something un-lady like!! Dont remember the exact words or lines though..

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    1. Obsessivemom Post author

      Exactly Priya. When we re read a book it’s like a whole new story because we have changed so much. We bring whole new perspectives to the book.

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  8. Shilpa Garg

    I read this book when I was in college and loved it. Hoping to pick it up again.
    Thank God that the times have changed and the oppressive and regressive social and cultural practices of the bygone era are no longer prevalent for most women.

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  9. Rachna

    I actually found the book slow and Scarlet annoying, even in the movie. But yes I have read about how marriage was a goal to chase one’s desires. Feels so sad.

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  10. Rajlakshmi

    Gone with the wind tugs at the heart every time, doesn’t it? The chase for a good marriage in those days makes one feel so frustrated. It’s good to see how far we have come.

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    1. Obsessivemom Post author

      Oh absolutely. It must have been ever so frustrating to channel all your energies towards that one thing – marriage.

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  11. Unishta

    This was a favourite of mine too. And I remember fantasizing about the dreamy Ashley and actually hating him for not marrying Scarlett. But she was quite brazen and I really felt sorry for her when Rhett finally leaves her after their baby died.

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    1. Obsessivemom Post author

      Back then I desperately wanted Ashley to marry Scarlett. But now that I have perspective enough to look beyond the happily ever after I can see what a misfit they would have been together.

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